You can't find your meaning and stability in something that changes.
Through reading the book, 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People' Stephen Covey talks about where you find your meaning and what you set your self worth in.
He wrote that you could not put your self worth in things that change. If you were to find your self worth in your relationship with your parents or even spouse, then your worth and performance would depend on how they viewed you and felt in the moment. You make decisions on where you find your meaning or focused attention, what you value. If it's in a changing entity, you are living your life off of chance.
Finding your value in an unchanging being, you are stabilizing your life and your ideals. Your decisions are based on strong and security, something that doesn't get affected by the moment.
Key takeaways:
1) You find meaning and purpose in what you value most
2) If you find value in things that change, so also do you
3) Build stability by placing your value in things that never change