"It's not about the journey; it's about the destination" This is a quote I hear fairly often, and I think this is really important to understand fully. I know I sometimes get too caught up in the details and strategies and forget that the destination isn't the most important. It's more about the path that it takes to get there.

I've noticed, though, that a lot of times, our "final destination" never seems to come, goals are set and reached, and yet it seemed as if the goalpost was moved to be always just out of reach. This is a good and bad thing if we focus so much on getting to one particular location, when we arrive after a while it becomes common and boring. However, with a moving goalpost, there is always something higher to aim for. That's what brings spice to life!

Something I heard recently from a podcast was that you need to have some small celebration when you reach your goal or milestone. If not, it seems like an endless journey where there is no rest. I am very guilty of moving my goalpost and never seeming quite to reach it, which leads to a lot of my side projects to be left open-ended.

Key takeaways:

1) It's not about the journey

2) Goalposts are set and move over time

3) Celebrate your goal-reaching

I've found it fascinating that many of the ideas and insights that I can vividly remember being said with very few words but the powerful meaning behind them. Learning to be concise with what you're talking about is a massive skill you can develop that will help you reach more people and share information faster. 

I'm unfortunately awful at this skill. I find myself in many scenarios where my words keep trailing on while not providing more value. When speaking with mentors, I would repeat myself many times and dance around the point I'm trying to make. 

I need to do more research on this topic, but what I've found helpful in becoming more concise with your speech are these.

1) Be aware of origin - listen to yourself talk, either at the moment or record it, and identify where you start trailing off

2) Be intentional about getting to the point first, then add backstory if necessary

3) Don't be afraid to say little - I often think I'm not bringing enough value into what I'm saying, and so I find the need to emphasize what I'm talking about, which leads to empty words. 

I find I do get bored with what I am doing fairly often, which leads me to do some more research into overcoming that boredom and getting back into that mood of excitement!

Through this, I found one of Brendon Burchard's videos entitled "Beating Boredom," where he outlined 4 major points to overcome that feeling of going through the motions, and I thought they were fascinating and wanted to share them.

1) Challenge yourself - go the extra mile to be more present at the moment and bringing value. Intentionally seek out to do it just a little faster, or try out a new idea. We often feel like we are doing the same tasks repeatedly without change, so breaking it up a bit will help us get out of that and make progress on it. 

2) Talk to others - start asking other people about their goals and aspirations, what kind of problems they are facing, and turn it into a way of serving them. Start problem-solving with them and work to find solutions. This will get your mind working on new challenges to work through.

3) Re-engage your learning - seek out ways and methods you could go about increasing your knowledge on the subject you feel bored with. If you're regularly learning, and that's a boring task, then try something new, make it different and exciting!

4) Be a leader - become a role model to those around you; whatever you're working on, seek to become the person to imitate. Cause others to look up to you. Paint a bigger picture and strive to go for it. It doesn't matter if it's unrealistic.

I love learning, especially on reaching higher levels of performance, but other subjects as well. 

However, the problem is that I often find myself taking in too much information and inevitably forget a good chunk of it. This is made even worse when I listen to audiobooks (my primary learning source), where I am typically doing another task simultaneously, and my attention is sometimes divided. 

I haven't found a complete solution to this problem, but I've found it very helpful to write down key ideas or takeaways from what I'm learning. This can be just a phrase I heard or even a single word that could spark my memory on the topic. I'll often write these down in my default notes app on my phone, but I find myself never going back to read and review them just because it takes so much time to scroll back. 

This is where the whole idea of mind mapping comes in. I'll be honest and admit that I haven't really used the mind mapping technique very much in the past due to how hard it is to get it started. However, as I'm finding my ideas and notes increasing, I want to take advantage of connecting the dots to new ideas. 

My current source of building a mindmap is using Evernote's app, a fairly basic note-taking app that syncs across devices and allows you to add tags to the notes. I prefer to use a bigger visual mindmap, but I haven't yet found a good app for that. In the time being, Evernote works really well for writing down my ideas as they come up and quickly tagging them with the corresponding name for future review. 

Key takeaways:

1) A lot of what I learn I forget due to the method

2) I can often remember ideas and insights if I only have a few keywords related to it

3) Using a mindmap technique, I can quickly review all related topics and make connections faster

I just finished reading the book "The Art of Learning" by Josh Waitzkins, a former chess master turned martial arts champion.

The main point I got out of this book is taking the long road when it comes to mastering a skill. It models many the 10,000-hour rule, with focused and long-term work to become great at something. When it came to chess, he had an innate ability to play it, but just having that wasn't enough to go up against people who've played for years. So he had to realize that to build that skill, it needed time and intentional learning.

It becomes an art in and of itself, learning, waiting, practicing, slowly but surely increasing that skill to a master level. When he became a Tai Chi world champion, he had an exciting experience that really caught my attention. In the dojo where he trained, another student was there whose skill was years above his own, and this guy was especially aggressive. He wouldn't stop when you tapped out, but wait until you slammed into the floor. 

Josh saw this as an opportunity to learn and intentionally went to this guy every time for months, getting tossed around every time. But through this process, he started seeing things that he formerly didn't catch. He described it as a feeling of moving in slow motion. Shortly after this, he started beating this student; he found the weaknesses, figured out the tricks, and used them against him. The student eventually stopped wanting to spar with him as he would keep losing. 

This story really illustrates two amazing things in my mind. One that to master something that you've never done before, or that's taken others years to perform if you intentionally seek out that learning opportunity. And the second is, the other student missed out on huge growth; he could have stepped up his game and gotten better. But he decided to give up and didn't want to spend the effort to take things to the next level.

I'm really starting to realize how much you truly can improve in your life, and things I formerly didn't even consider on the plate, I'm now able to do with relative ease!

It's a massive mindset change that I'm currently in the midst of and realizing that there isn't much I can't do if I set my mind to it. There are so many things you can make huge improvements in what you want to learn with focused and intentional effort. The problem is, I often face the scenario where I don't feel up to doing something, and previously, I would write it off as something I can't fix, and there are just going to swing like that. To a certain extent, I believe that to be true, but I'm coming to find that you can program how you show up in those scenarios and throw the odds in your favor of wanting to be up for something. 

For example, these past few weeks, I've felt absolutely drained and pretty unmotivated in a lot of my work. But after a conversation with my father, I forgot to take into account that I was massively losing weight (on purpose) each week and that in months past, it would leave me sucked dry. Just coming to realize that the weight loss may be a reason for my weird lack of motivation helped me see what kind of changes I can make to improve it or consider when making decisions. 

Key takeaways:

1) There isn't much you can't do if you set your mind to it

2) Don't take things you thought were impossible for granted; you can change them

3) Set the odds in your favor by doing things ahead of time to feel the right ways

I absolutely love high-performance and taking things to the next level. My favorite thing to do in my free time is read on the subject, and I try to bring my highest performance levels to whatever I happen to be doing.

I want to bring more value than the average person into my tasks, and the problem with this is that it takes more effort, which can lead to failure. I've found myself in several situations where I went in wanting to bring my all, and I fall short of it; not only that, I do less work than the average person would in that scenario. It's the case of too much to do and not enough time to do it in. 

I would often overbook my time and not leave any room for 'life' to happen. So when 'life' inevitably happened, my plans would fall apart. Thus, I came up with "Before going the extra mile, make sure you can do the first" basically, instead of figuring out what the extra bit you want to give, think first about the actual task, and do that well first foremost. Then, formulate what you can do to bring a bit more value than expected. I love the 80/20 rule for this; a lot of times, there are some small efforts we can do that aren't apart of what we need to do that can make big impacts. Doing those small things that get you really far. 

An example of going that extra mile in my own work is cleaning the office up when I'm finished. Restocking products even when it can wait until the morrow. This creates a clean and open working environment where I come to the next day with a clear head and can laser focus on the tasks that need completing. 

1) Don't go the extra mile until you know you can go the first

3) Consider first how you will do your job and get that down as the priority

3) Use the 80/20 rule when trying to figure out what to do, like the "extra mile."

Something I'm becoming more aware of in my own life is realizing the impact of the story I tell myself.

Tony Robbins said in one of his seminars "Becareful what story you tell yourself" because we will view everything through that lens, be it right or wrong. Basically, what we tell ourselves, will oftentimes come to pass before us. If we expect a situation to go sideways, there will always be something that goes sideways. This all comes down to perception, for everything we do and learn, there is always a positive and negative, and they aren't mutually exclusive of each other. 

Focusing on the positive things rather than the negative will change how we view life in general and creates in us a hopeful look to the future! It's very much the power of limiting beliefs, 'whether you think you can, or cannot, you're right' -Henry Ford. And a lot of things in our lives are brainwashed into us from such an early age, good and bad, and sometimes we have to take a step back and change our mindset on how we go about grasping a new concept. 

Key takeaways:

1) Be aware of the story you tell yourself

2) We are who we think we are

3) We're ingrained with what is the norm from a young age, it takes intentional focus to overcome those

"Teaching it will help you better understand it" This is something I hear quite often from the thought-leaders I follow. And I know it to be quite true from my own experience of grasping new concepts and ideas.

This is why I'm trying something new related to learning new subjects, and you can refer to my previous post, where I tried it out in practice. I'm calling it the "Super-Specific-Hyper Learning Method," where if I want to learn or better grasp a new piece of information, I can take myself through a series of steps to speed the process up a bit. 

I've heard that not only writing but speaking, what you learn will help you get a deeper understanding of the subject. It forces you to put what you learned into new words and structure your thoughts. On top of that, speaking it out loud will cause your brain to hear it differently from how you learned it and cause new insights to spark. Plus, you get the bonus to refer back to it when you don't recall all the points. 

The basic outline goes as follows:

1) Find content - go to a few videos or written posts on the subject you want to learn, and hear what they have to say

2) Commonalities - Find what's common between the content

3) Write a summary - either a blog post or with pen and paper, outline what you learned

4) Record it - Video yourself talking about the subject, and go through each key piece of information

One of the skills I greatly desire to be good at is public speaking, which is part of the reason I started making these videos.

Doing some basic research, I found several things I need to work on to start learning how to be a better speaker. One of the major things is removing filler words. Doing this will make us sound more confident and avoids the distraction of people counting the 'ums' and 'likes' while talking.

I pulled up a few short videos on the subject and found the common key features among them.

1) Get comfortable with silence - we often are afraid of leaving space between thoughts and want to fill them with something. However, this isn't necessary, and often the other party doesn't even realize the pauses.

2) Count your filler words - You can record yourself and review it or have another person ring a bell when you use the filler words; this helps you become more aware of what words you use and how often. 

3) Breathe - We often get flustered and start using filler words to formulate our thoughts, so take a deep breath, even in the middle of a speech.

4) Focus on how you want your listener to feel - Think about how you want to get your message across; let that be the motivator

5) Practice - The more you practice being aware and replacing the filler words with silence, the more natural it feels.